So, there has been some curiosity about a reference to something I posted in which I mentioned 1979. With regard to our relationship, Beloved and I have been together since I was sixteen and he was seventeen. We put each other through college and grad school and wound up starting careers that were conveniently based in the same city. Eventually, babies arrived (and arrived, arrived, and arrived - - I don’t remember most of the nineties) and we entered a new season in our journey. Our kids are in college now and we are back to being two instead of six.
We realize that our kind of relationship, one that began when we were teenagers, is rare. Honestly, there have been ups and downs over the years. Maturity demands that we grow and change. We have had to work through things, but most couples do. I am a huge believer in premarital counseling and tune ups along the way, if indicated. Somehow though, through it all, we have always had this bond that no matter how many growing pains we had, we were always each other’s true north.
Yesterday I wrote a post saying something like, “hey, I know you…there you are.” That is how it was for us. It was like we already knew each other the day we met. We dated other people, but for us, it was always each other. Somehow, we keep it hot and sexy and fun, except when things are not hot and sexy and fun. Real life can be trying, boring, and tedious, which can sap desire, as well as skew one’s view of each other. But then it comes back around, again. It is easier once the littles get older. Our roughest times were when we were up to our hips in kids and Beloved was in his thirties, which in his field is make or break time, careerwise. There was a lot of business travel and baby birthing back then. We were sleep deprived, stressed and overworked, but also reveling in this family that we waited so long to build. Those were wonderful, horrible years. We have had our moments, to be sure, but here we are decades later and it is still good. Very good.
So, yeah, I was being truthful when I mentioned 1979. And that seems like eons ago to us, too. :-)